Don't Help Those Who Pretend to be Needy

The following incident helped me secure my mental peace. After reading, you will also realize that we meet many people who ruin our mental and physical peace with their extended and all-time interruptions.

These people come asking for help, it could be any kind of help, like small daily usage things, help in studies, tips regarding grooming, or asking for your opinions on different matters. They keep you busy helping them and they do something else. Remember, they are not foolish at all instead are wiser than you.

I was a first-year BSc (Hons) student living in the university hostel. I had never lived apart from my family before. Luckily, despite having different faculties, my roommates from the same semester were of the same caliber as me. We were given a large room that felt like a hall. It was large enough for each girl to have a bed, a cabinet, and a study area with some space to move around.

In the hostel, we were most juniors, surrounded by seniors. A girl who was always seeking people for help was one of those seniors. She was observed pleading with people for various cutlery items, including sugar, milk, tea, and anything else.

Her favorite location to visit was our room.

She was so ridiculous that she never gave our bedtime any thought or consideration. She just cared about her needs.

My elder brother, Zaafir, had lived in the hostel for a long time. He was my mentor and used to advise me on different matters.

I went up to him and told him about the stress and disruption the girl had been causing. With a naughty smile, he told me, “Tit for tat.” I was specific in my question. “Start teasing her every single day, pay her a visit, and make demands,” he explained. I felt guilty and ashamed about requesting anything from anyone. He stated, “This is the only way to stop her.”

I discussed this solution with my roommates. They approved this and we started our payback. You would not believe the results. We did not let her visit our room; before that, we asked her for different things. I think she must have found that difficult as she was not ready to buy anything. Our visits and requests made her stay away from our room.

She barely asked for anything after that. Hurrrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy We were secure.

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What I learned

This incident is like a set example for me of how to react when others demand unusual help. Sometimes they pretend silly, incompetent, or goofy to gather sympathy. They compel us to help them. With our full strength and emotions, we help them, while they use their money and time for other purposes.

Be kind but not fooled at the hands of such people.